How It Feels To Be A Black Woman In South Carolina

Lately, SC has been in national headlines due to race relations. Below are opinions from women on the PABPG team and how they feel about everything that’s going on.

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“To be a black women in America is one of the scariest things in the midst of all this chaos. From the shootings in churches, debates on the Confederate flag, & burning of churches you spend your days fearing what’s going to happen next. It’s scary to think that you, one of your family members or one of your closest friends could be harmed at any moment just because of the color of your skin. I think as women, no matter the race we need to support each other during this time more than ever.”

-Tanece Moore; Rock Hill, SC

“It breaks my heart to hear about any act of violence, but when it is an injustice crime towards my race I feel like I have lost a part of myself. When I attempt to have discussions with people outside my race about these tragedies I often notice they are careful with their words. It’s disappointing because I wish to find a mutual understanding, and they assume I am seeking confrontation. As a black woman in South Carolina it is tempting to act out on the hate, but I am much stronger when I continue to share my faith, love, and hope for a better day.”

-Nikolette Miller; Rock Hill, SC

“Being a black woman in the South is ironically one of the most freeing things ever. Black women are hands down one of, if not THE most, hated group of people on the planet YET we do not let that stop us. We’re still strong, we’re still here, we’re still raising our communities, we’re learning to accept ourselves, we’re the largest group of entrepreneurs in this country and we’re forever beautiful. Yes, there is a lot of hate and ignorance in the south but just seeing how black women are still prospering in the midst of it all really warms my soul. Our spirits will not be broken and our faith will remain high! We are unstoppable and filled with black girl magic :)”

-Jessica Tee; Columbia, SC

“Don’t speak too loudly.  Be polite & be accommodating. Be confident but not too much. Your hair is loud just like you so keep it tame. Don’t be a statistic. Don’t express yourself freely. Don’t let your brothers wear hoodies, don’t let them buy skittles, don’t let them walk in ” white” neighborhoods alone and don’t let them play in parks with toy guns. Don’t be a baby momma & don’t ask for help. You’re strong enough to do it all. Have curvy curves & full lips. The shade of your skin speaks for you first. Be light skin. Be okay with McDonalds dates. Be content with settling, after all your momma did. Attend a HBCU because PWIs weren’t meant for you. Be natural, if not you hate yourself. Make sure you can at least do hair or sing. Don’t tell others how your mom & dad are still going strong. Be cautious & follow all of these things. Be a muse, to be a black woman above all things is to be used.”

-Denee’ Waters; Charleston, SC

Do you have any thoughts or opinions about this topic? Feel free to comment below!

2 thoughts on “How It Feels To Be A Black Woman In South Carolina

  1. It is tough being a black woman in this world period. But as a black woman I believe that we are known for being resilient. We are able to bounce back. Our faith, love and strength enable us to do so. See we love ourselves and our family far too much to ever let them see us down for too long. Black women today and even way before our time have and always will be superwomen. Because our husbands, brothers, and sons are being shot down before us we have to be able to shed our tears, wipe them and keep fighting for what we believe in. Every day is a fight for a black woman. But see somehow we always persevere.


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