Ahhhh, Valentine’s Day. The day that people either absolutely love or absolutely hate. Traditionally, it is the happy couples that are in love with Valentine’s Day while the singles fall into the “hate” category. I think it’s finally time to shake things up! This year I challenge all of you beautiful single women to embrace and fall in love with Valentine’s Day! This isn’t just a day for couples; this is a day of LOVE and no one can love you better than you can love yourself. 🙂
To begin, I’ll to use myself as an example. I am currently in a relationship with a great guy BUT understand that if I were single (and I was totally planning to be but that’s another story) I would be excited and celebrating the day just like everyone else. I’ve heard Valentine’s Day referred to as “Single Awareness Day” as if being single is some sort of plague or disease! Before meeting my boyfriend, I was loooooooving the single life and you can too if you do it right! Below are 3 tips on dealing with Valentine’s day as a single woman…
Tip #1: Confidence is key. In other words, if you’re completely in love with yourself and are confident in the fabulous woman that you are then Valentine’s Day should really just be another day for you to strut your stuff in all of your fabulousness. A significant other shouldn’t complete or validate you. Being single is a time to work on yourself, pursue your dreams and learn what you do and don’t want out of life. Don’t allow a manmade holiday make you feel bad about about your relationship status because there is NOTHING wrong with being by yourself.
Tip #2: Use this day to observe and weed out unnecessary people in your life. If you’re technically single but talking to someone then pay close attention to how this person acts. This should be a 24/7 thing and as a PrettyGirl, hopefully you’ve already established at the beginning what you expect out the “relationship” and have set your standards. Situationships are a huge NO. I’ve been there, done that, and got the t-shirt. This is not a road to go down because you almost never win. If a guy is serious about being with you, you WILL know. There will be no confusion and you won’t have to question it. A guy will tell you and make it obvious with his actions that he wants to be with you. So if you’re in a situation where a guy is saying “I’m not looking for a relationship right now” RUN girl! What he’s really saying is “I’m not ready for a relationship right now…with you.” No guy is going to let his perfect girl get away. So go ahead and cut ties because this guy is doing nothing but taking up the space that your Prince Charming should be in.
Also, make note of those friends who are always bragging about their relationship. It’s one thing for your friend to share things and confide in you about her relationship. And as her friend, you should genuinely be happy and there for her. It’s another thing for your “friend” to constantly talk about and throw her relationship in your face. If your friend is always telling you every single thing her significant other does for her (sending a nice text, surprising her at her job, buying her a random gift etc.) then you may want to evaluate that relationship more closely. It sounds like she may be trying to make you jealous and you don’t need those type of people in your life.
Tip #3: Hop up out of bed and take yourself on a date! Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday this year which is a blessing and a curse. If you’re a true PrettyGirl then it is definitely a blessing because you see this as just another beautiful day to go out and treat yourself. I see a lot of my single girlfriends on social media embracing this thought and have said that they will most definitely be going out for Valentine’s Day. I’m all for solo dates but if you’re not there just yet, get together with your other friends and make it a group thing. Go out to dinner, see a movie (like 50 Shades of Grey!), go to a spa, or have a wine night at home! You may not have a significant other but you don’t have to be alone on Valentine’s Day. Besides, love from your best friends is just as important as love from a boyfriend or girlfriend.
So there you go PrettyGirl. There is absolutely no need for you to feel down on Valentine’s Day! Surround yourself with the love from your friends and family and continue to work on becoming the beautiful and ambitious woman you are. Remember you need no one to make you feel complete and it is totally true that when you aren’t looking for love that’s when it’ll find you! “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” Proverbs 18:22 Focus on your goals and let the man of your dreams find you! He should put in all the work because PrettyGirls work smart, not hard. 😉
Have an amazing Valentine’s Day ladies!
Jess, Founder of PABPG Inc.