October is best known for Halloween, but it is also Domestic Violence Awareness month. Relationships can be scary if they are not promoting our confidence and well-being. It is important to understand that men, women, and even children can suffer from domestic violence. Emotional abuse is just as harmful as physical abuse. Knowing the warning signs of an abusive relationship can save you time and heartache.
Your partner is selfish when it comes to you. Sometimes we think that our partner not wanting to share us is sweet and shows passion. But it is important to realize how much is too much. Your partner may become excessively jealous when you are just choosing to spend time with other people (family and friends). As a result, you become isolated.
Your partner calls you by anything other than your name. He/she uses derogatory terms to put you down. They insult your intelligence and make you feel inferior. Usually if something goes wrong for them, you are the one to blame. There will be lots of screaming and yelling involved.
Your partner is touching you in harmful ways. This includes but is not limited to hitting, punching, or slapping. This is usually what people automatically think of when discussing domestic violence because it the damage that can be seen. Those who have suffered in violent relationships may have scratches and bruises on their faces or other body parts. Violent partners may even result to sexual violence.
If your partner causes you to feel fear, you may be in a violent relationship. You may begin to notice that there is a withdrawal of affection. When you are around your partner, even the slightest touch from them may cause you to flinch. Being in a relationship should not be nerve-racking; there should only be an exchange of love.
The Plus Factor is about a woman who shares her first-hand experience of being in a violent relationship. The author, Tamika L. Sims, is a South Carolina native and is now leading a wonderful life by inspiring others.
***If you or anyone you know is involved in an abusive relationship, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
Tierra Thomas, Collegiate Ambassador of PABPG Inc.