First, let me start of saying I’m so excited its summer again. Winter and cool weather are great, but there’s always something that makes me 1000x happier and more vivacious during a southern summer. That being said, I thought this would be the perfect time to talk about summer flings/summer romances. While some of them can be like The Notebook, 9 times out of 10 they won’t be as long lasting, nor drama free. Though a summer fling can be fun, there are a few things to keep in mind when investing in one.
1. If you don’t plan on ever having it last, don’t lead your partner on. It’s rude, not fair, and guaranteed to bite you in the a**. Karma is real. Make SURE that both of you have an understanding of the brevity of the relationship and that you’re not looking for anything long-term.
2. If you think you are looking for something long-term but your boo-thang isn’t, run. Seriously. That’s already looking disastrous, and more than likely will just hurt you.
3. And MOST IMPORTANTLY: If you KNOW that you’re not in search of a serious relationship and you only want someone to chill with, converse, and hang out/date occasionally to pass by the summer, please don’t be quick to give up your body to that person. Even if you don’t necessarily believe in waiting until marriage, at least reserve yourself for something you’re fully invested in and someone who you will still hear from after the weather changes.
Though, that’s not to say that summer flings never have a chance of manifesting in to something greater, but it is best not to base long-term decisions off of short-term interactions.
And remember to always keep it classy in ANY relationship you’re in!
-Raven Jahän Joyner, President of PABPG Inc.